Girl, Interrupted

©JODIE GOODACRE

 

Can you remember a particular time when someone supported you, what did they do?

"My friends have made sure to check-in regularly on how I am feeling, dropping me a silly text, sending little cards, taking time out for a phone call or even just sending some ridiculous selfies. The little things that say 'I am thinking of you' has made such a huge impact during a difficult time in my life."

JODIE GOODACRE | 22 | UK

"Support comes in all shapes and sizes and the little things make a huge difference. It's currently exam season and I find this triggering to my anxiety. I have a friend who I meet up with daily for a cup of tea in our favourite cafe."

MELISSA | 24 | UK

"I struggled with suicidal ideation last year. People from the Mental Health community, offered support, by talking & listening,  and helped me through the dark moments."

LULU | 42 | FRANCE

 

"My auntie and I have always gone walking but during one of my worst relapses, I was too ill to go walking and so she would pick me up and we would go for a drive, even though I did not want to talk much and it was not the same, just being kind of outside and in her company made a huge difference."

NICOLE WILLIAMS | 24 | UK

"I was feeling hopeless after I felt like I totally messed up an interview for my dream job. My friend took me to the riverside where we sat together through the night doing nothing but to wait for the next morning's sunrise."

TED | 21 | TAIWAN

"My friend, Tom, wrote small notes of things that make me happy and stuck them to cans of Pepsi Max."

HEIDI WILSON | 18 | UK

 

"My PE teacher at school has supported me so much that he actually managed to save my life. He made me realise that it’s ok not to be ok and he was the first person that allowed me to put my trust in them. He stopped me from taking my own life in a 10 minute conversation."

CHLOE BELLERBY | 17 | UK

"My best friend Emily has always been in my corner when I first started experiencing panic attacks she was there."

HEIDI WILLIAMS | 17 | UK

"My parents have been a massive support to me recently, as I have had to defer my university studies due to my mental health. From the smaller things, like helping me make the necessary phone calls, to the larger things like helping me move my things out of my student house.."

LISA | 20 | UK

 

"This is quite hard to explain, but simply being there I guess. And being OK with me having an anxiety attack, not wishing it away, not continuously soothing me, but just being around. It then feels the burden, pain or struggle is split, rather than having to cope with it alone."

MATTHIAS | 21 | BELGIUM

"I really want to thank my psychiatrist back at home. I have never being officially diagnosed with a mental health problem but she managed to help me regain my confidence after a streak of traumatic events."

D | 20 | BULGARIA

"My husband and my best friend have been my supporters for most of my life, and without their kindness, understanding and support I doubt I would be here. Mostly how they support me is by listening, and especially listening without judgement. They've also taken tips I've given them on how to help me when I'm in distress or crisis. That has helped me so much."

KATHY M | 20 | CANADA

 

"I had support from a friend, which was important, as mental health can be a lonely place. Knowing someone was there was so beneficial.. a phone call, a visit made all the difference."

ASHLEY CURRY | 49 | UK

"I recently had a panic attack late at night, just lying in bed. I didn’t want to bother anyone but I messaged this person just in case they were awake. My panic was spiralling but they distracted me for two hours until the early morning, all the time assuring me that I wasn’t keeping them up or being a nuisance. I am eternally grateful for people who take time to just be there."

LAURA BARTLEY | 28 | UK

"While I was sectioned, my friend came to visit me in hospital. It must have been very strange for him to see me in a psychiatric ward but that short conversation we had gave me a sense of normality that I really needed at the time."

JON SALMON | 40 | UK

 

"The last time someone supported me was when I was having a bad panic attack. My boyfriend is constantly my rock and never judges or makes me feel unsafe while i'm having a panic attack. He makes sure I know I'm safe, that he loves me and that it will be over soon. He breathes slowly with me and holds me so I have a sense of comfort during the attack. Before him, my attacks would last hours, with him, my attacks last no longer than 10 minutes."

CHELSEA GIRARD | 19 | CANADA

"I've been fortunate to receive a lot of invaluable support. The particular moment that stands out was from during my first severe bout of depression, when I had a breakdown at a work event at Alton Towers with over 100 colleagues present. My boss at that time drove me home - a journey of three hours - before driving himself back."

MATTHEW WILLIAMS | 43 | UK

"I didn't know what to do when I was coming back from my psychiatrist, but the person was amazing. They didn't not only hear what I had to say, but they actually listened."

MARC LAMBERTS | 25 | NETHERLANDS

 

"My friends are always incredibly patient with me, always giving me that space and not moaning if I say no to going out to a social event or simply for a meal, and them staying up very late at night to talk to me, help calm me down and put things into perspective leaving me feeling more calm and able to just settle down and sleep."

JACOB PEOPLE | 20 | UK

"My old sociology teacher really supported me in college with my mental health. He let me miss lessons to go to CBT and understood/ never got angry when I left lessons in a panic attack."

NICOLE WOODWARD | 19 | UK

"My parents have been a massive support to me recently, as I have had to defer my university studies due to my mental health. From the smaller things, like helping me make the necessary phone calls, to the larger things like helping me move my things out of my student house."

LISA | 20 | UK

 

"In the days where I was starting to get ill during my most recent episode, I had an anxiety attack in Tesco with my then partner, and ran out the store. I was outside trying to compose myself and getting more worked up because my partner hadn’t come to check on me when an older lady came over and asked if I was ok. It meant the world to me, and I was so grateful that she’d gone against the odds of 'keeping yourself to yourself."

ELENA WOLFSON | 27 | UK

"My friend who has been away for a while has been so supportive and wonderful and kind and everytime I message needing help she is there for me. When I nearly did something very bad to myself at the end of last year they supported me so much and helped me through it without judging or turning away. ."

ADAM HUGHES | 24 | UK

"I have great friends, I don't know if I can single out one incident but they always ask how I am, they respect when I need 'me' time and rally round me when I need someone to talk to."

ZOE HAZEL | 27 | UK

 

"Most recently in November my mental health took a decline and my boyfriend who I live with was a massive support. He encouraged me to get help from my GP, and helped give me the support to do simple things like get up, shower, things that seem so easy when you’re well but become impossible tasks when you’re not well."

CHARLOTTE BATES | 23 | UK

"When I was at university, a friend supported me by listening to my struggles I was having mentally and how it was affecting my academic work. They suggested support that I could get for my mental health and for my academic studies and listened to my struggles showing they cared and understood what I was going through."

PETER SHAW | 25 | UK

"I’m incredibly lucky that I have such a supportive network around me, from family and friends to select professionals; but sometimes it’s the little things that make the biggest difference like meeting up for regular coffee dates with a friend, or when my partner calls to check in on me when he knows that I’m having a bad day and all those that still kept in touch with me even when I was in hospital."

ABBIE HAMBLETON | 22 | UK

 

"When I became really depressed and had a break down, my wonderful friend Rose made me a scrapbook filled with pictures of us together and positive and encouraging quotes."

MARY | 21 | UK

"They’d come and visit me in the city I’d moved to and go for walks with me, watch crap TV, do silly tasks to cheer me up! Just keeping in contact, keeping me in the loop, and being with me without me feeling pressured to be on ‘top form’ enabled me to be on better form and to actually have some fun, some normal fun and some connection to people I cared about. It reminds you that you’re loved, and that you’re valuable - because you can’t often remind yourself of that."

KATIE | 27 | UK

"My boyfriend. In big ways, like taking me to the doctors and helping me to wash and get dressed when I can’t do it myself. And in small ways, like constantly reminding me of my worth and being a listening ear always."

CARA | 27 | UK

 

"Only last week I had a bad spell. A couple of things weren’t coming off in my professional and personal life, I felt tired and a beat up by the world and when I came home my housemate just talked for me a bit about nothing in particular. It helped me feel a bit less broken and he gave me a hug before I went to bed."

CARL | 26 | UK

"My mother has been my rock all the way through my tough times and I am very lucky and grateful that i have a close family member i can depend on. Doesn't matter what time of the day / night, I can ring her knowing she’ll be there to talk me through my thoughts."

STEPHANIE | 24 | UK

"A friend I hadn't spoken to for about a year emailed to ask how I was. So much had happened, we arranged a mate date to talk about mental health, home life and football."

MIKE | 31 | UK

 

"At one point not so long ago, I had fallen so deeply into the darkness I could not see any way out, someone I really loved was there for me every step of the way, they let me cry to them and call them whenever I needed and allowed for me to just be honest and were always around, they even tried to give me constant encouragement."

LEANNE | 22 | UK

"Recently I knew I was getting unwell again and realised I needed to get support, however I was petrified. My friend helped me to book a drs appointment, stayed the night before and watched a cheesy movie to help me relax, sat with me whilst I wrote out how I was feeling to share with the doctor. She then came to the Drs and after we went for a coffee. Without her support I honestly wouldn't have had the strength to go. I don't think she will ever realise just how much that meant to me."

GRACE ANDERSON | 24 | UK

"Waking up at 3am with the mother of all panic attacks, I was seriously scared. I eventually woke my husband, Chris. He tells me that yes, it's scary, he understands how I feel but that it will pass, because it always does. Once he's helped me to weaken the pesky panic he helps me to stay in that calmer place - usually by putting on YouTube's 'cutest kitties pushing things off tables' compilation or getting me to do a ridiculous dance with him in the kitchen Wired for Sound by Cliff Richard."

LUCY NICHOL | 39 | UK